Note: the following deals with ‘heads up’ about a potential sociopathic predatation, and not victims of sociopaths that are in unavoidable relationships ie family, spouse or similar.
It’s an unfortunate person indeed who, amidst the flock of sheep (of all the many good and decent-minded people in the world) that ends up meshing with a sociopath. I’m using this image of the proverbial “wolf in sheep’s clothing” to illustrate.
The sociopath is a predator who at first may appear like any other individual. There may be something about them, however, that may be a little more animated than other people generally – some spark that at first appears attractive/entertaining.
You’ve probably seen, as I have, tv documentaries on how a predator, when hunting for food, will seek to make the hunt less taxing by targeting the aged, the young or the weak/sick of a flock or herd of prey.
And so it is that a sociopath is an opportunistic hunter of them they consider they can subdue for their own use (see previous blog and the story that illustrates), someone who they have worked out is a safe bet.
While the sociopath is cunning, even biding their time in watching their victim to assess weakness in that victim, he/she is that kind of personality that won’t be bothered overtaxing themselves. They want easy prey, someone who they have worked out as being someone they can make the pity-play, or con game, on. For example, the female siren will target the lonely man, the emotional vampire will target someone who they consider they can drain emotionally – and the perfect user may keep watch for, and seek out, someone of perfect use, someone who they can exact, through continued cunning/control, financial and emotional energy.
Some of the criteria the sociopath will be able to intuitively hone into in a potential victim:
.naivety – or may like to champion/pity the ‘underdog’ in society
.insecurities ie psychic determinations from past upbringing/past relationships. These are the victim’s own self-impressions – how they see themselves, which could lean towards low self-esteem
. guilt
and/or
.good sense of social responsibility ie., can take on the emotional burden
. neediness. For eg., needfulness of a friend or confidante, needfulness of a romantic relationship
And one more thing that I will add. The ideal victim of a sociopath is that person that is secured financially.
Basically with predator and prey, it’s a one-up-manship game. The sociopath must find victims that fulfill one or all of the above criteria in which to win – to have that brimming confidence by which they can weave a web of deceptive behaviour to then go on and use the victim to their own compulsive ends.
When a completely unsuspecting ‘sheep’ meets and has interaction with one of these predatory ‘wolves’, the lack of suspicion comes from a naivety of belief that the sociopath has normal human feelings/normal social conscience and empathy that is like their own; out of how they assume other people should also be. The victim may consider themselves of good character and think well of others generally – never imagining that there could be those out there that will not or cannot think on the same social empathetic level.
(This has been part 4 of Series Psychopath)
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